Pastor Kevin Sanders

"He must increase, but I must decrease." -John 3:30

A Veil and False Eyelashes: Ruining the Gift

Manila is such a fascinating city to live in. I am constantly intrigued by the different types of people I encounter here. Last night was no exception. I had just finished doing a True Love Waits seminar for the students of the UCCP Cosmopolitan Church dormitory. A few of the church leaders invited me to dinner at a nearby Wendy’s.

I was struck by what I saw in the fast food restaurant. Two women caught my attention at the upper floor. Their attire could not have been any different. One of them, seated with her husband, was covered from head to toe. I could only see her hands—even her face was fully covered (her veil only had two openings for her eyes).* The other, seated at the corner table, was apparently a bargirl (prostitute). She was wearing false eyelashes and not much else. The bargirl left after we had been there for a few minutes. To be honest, I was a bit relieved—I was constantly struggling to keep my eyes off of her exposed body. The veiled woman continued eating with her husband. Eating seemed to be a bit awkward for her, as she had to slip the food underneath the veil in order to get it to her mouth.

I later thought about this scene. Somehow these two women represent the way in which we have ruined the gift of sex.

The veiled woman represents the legalism imposed by so many religions (both past and present). Christians have not been immune from this, by the way. Both Catholic and Protestant theologians have been guilty of treating sex as a necessary evil—something shameful.

The prostitute represents the other extreme—throwing away all restraint. Sex is thus put on display, cheapened, and even reduced to a commodity for sale. We see evidence of this mentality all around us.

God intended neither of these. He intended for us to treat sex as a sacred thing—a precious gift. We have failed miserably. He is calling us to return to His original plan. We would be wise to listen.

Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame.
-Genesis 2:25

*Author’s Note: My observations are in no way intended to offend followers of Islam.  The “veil” I described here represents a very extreme interpretation of the Koran’s principles of modesty.  Most followers of Islam consider it acceptable for a woman to show her face.  I make no apologies for being a Christian, but I don’t want this post to be interpreted as a stereotype of other religions.

This is one of the many articles that you’ll find in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.

8 Comments

  1. Kevin, TnQ 4 sharing God’s love to Cosmopolitan Dorm. Your insight on the two extremely opposite women is so full of wisdom. Bakit nga ganoon ang tao ano? Lalo na Pinoy! You are very correct, what matters really is focusing and obeying what the LORD says! God bless you.
    In Christ,
    Miriam E. Miravite

  2. Hi Kuya Kevin,

    Thanks for the timely post! Your observation reminded me about how the Word usually shows a balance between grace and righteousness, legalism vs licentiousness.
    We often tend to go to either extreme on our own.
    God bless you in your ministry!

    BTW, I was a former dorm resident of Cosmo. =)

    Rita

  3. The scenes just portrayed boils down to the Christian homes and similar institution’s inadequacy to teach and model effectively the Biblical or Christian view. Tuloy at palakasin ang laban!!

    ptr joel idurot

  4. hi kuya kevin!

    your blogs are really good, thought provoking!

    GOD Bless sa Ministry mo, i hope one day, i can invite you to our Parish.

    salamat po for answering His call, to be of service to the fellow youth!

    piapots
    diocese of novaliches

  5. Sure, maybe I can visit some day. Once I get a copy of that video I’ll let you know.

  6. tama ka kuya. sex is sacred and a gift from God. we should respect it and not abuse it. it is for the wedded.

  7. I live in Saudi Arabia and I see women here with their veils on and black overalls all the time. You’re weird if you don’t! It makes me stop and think that not all women are concerned about the latest fashion, or if they have enough makeup on or if they look sexy enough. Having recently come over to this part of the world made me realize that there are still a lot of women who look in the mirror to see what God would think about them before they ever set foot outside the house.

  8. Hi, K-Li

    Here’s something I added in the book’s version of this article:

    “My observations are in no way intended to offend followers of Islam. The ‘veil’ I described here represents a very extreme interpretation of the Koran’s principles of modesty. Most followers of Islam consider it acceptable for a woman to show her face. I make no apologies for being a Christian, but I don’t want this chapter to be interpreted as a stereotype of other religions.”

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