Category: Abstinence

Premarital Sex and False Intimacy

I often talk about the emotional consequences of premarital sex (regret, emotional baggage, etc).  Here’s one that I don’t think I’ve ever mentioned:  a false sense of intimacy.

Here’s what I mean:  as I’ve mentioned before, sex creates a mysterious, “one flesh” bond between two people.  This powerful emotional attachment was designed by God for married people.

But sexual intimacy outside of marriage clouds one’s perception of his/her relationship.  A couple can get caught up in the emotional attachments of sex and think they are deeply in love.  But once the excitement wears off, they may realize they had very little in common other than physical passion.

This is one more reason God commands us to abstain from sexual intimacy outside of marriage:  He wants us to make wise decisions and choose a truly compatible spouse.

Hotel Rooms and Hand Grenades

The Dreaded Hotel Room

As many of you know, I’ve been collecting and reading stories for my second book. There’s a foolish move I’ve seen mentioned several times: checking into a hotel room with the boyfriend/girlfriend. It always goes something like this:

“We checked into a hotel room. We weren’t planning for anything to happen, but . . . ”

Wait a minute. Let’s think about this. You checked into a room and got horizontal with someone you were wildly attracted to . . . and you didn’t think anything bad would happen? Am I missing something?

What Part of “Run” Don’t You Understand?

How does God instruct us to deal with sexual temptation? It’s pretty clear:

Run from sexual sin!
-1st Corinthians 6:18

Run from anything that stimulates youthful lusts.
2nd Timothy 2:22

There you have it: Run! Get away! Flee!

I often compare sexual temptation to hand grenades. Once the pin is pulled, you have two choices: 1. Get far away. 2. Get destroyed. No one would take a couple of steps away and assume he’s safe.

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If we want to win the battle for sexual purity, we have to do it God’s way. This means avoiding tempting situations—not walking straight into them.