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Morning after Mourning
. . . Weeping may last through the night,
but joy comes with the morning.
-Psalm 30:5
It’s true that I’ve experienced breakups, being basted, dumped, and all those other unfortunate events that come with being single. I’ve also mentioned that heartbreaks hurt now, just like they did when I was much younger.
There is an advantage, however, to being older and wiser. No matter what happens, I know that the sadness will not last forever.
Those first few days can be rough—it’s kind of like “emotional jet lag.” It can be hard to think about anything but your own pain. Difficult as it is, this stage cannot be skipped—it has to be endured.
There comes a point, however, where it just doesn’t hurt as much. You start playing happy songs again on your ipod (instead of all of those depressing “how will I live without you” type tunes). The joy of living begins to return, as if a fog has lifted away from your soul. The healing has begun.
You may still miss the person who is gone from your life (even if you are the one who ended the relationship). The memories may still hurt, but they hurt less than before.
As long as you have committed to let go of the past, you will heal. It will take time. You may even be left with some emotional scars, but scars don’t hurt anymore. They are simply there to remind us of lessons learned.
No matter what is happening in your life, do not forget that joy comes in the morning.
An expanded version of this article is available in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.