Tell Us Your Story

For one of my last (or maybe the last) “Valentine’s Day related” post, I would like to hear your stories/testimonies.

*Are you saving your virginity for your future spouse? Tell us about it!

*Are you happily married after waiting on God’s timing? Tell us about it!

*Was your heart broken by choosing not to wait? Are you a single parent because of a bad decision? Tell us about it so others can learn from your mistake.

*Did you experience a “second chance” to do things right after making a mistake? Yes, tell us about it!

You can email me or post here. I will not publish your name without your permission.

We’ll see how this goes. I’ll read the posts and publish them here immediately (as long as they are appropriate). I will edit, compile, and post emails in a few days. For blogger users, remember that you need to be signed out if you want to post anonymously.If you create a post while signed in, I will assume that you want it published as such.

The Valentine’s Day Massacre


I want to tell you a story that is thousands of years old, yet still happens today. It is more common than any fairy tale, yet you will not see it in many pocketbooks (romance novels). This story is both ancient and modern—it varies only slightly from the beginning of time until now.

The story goes something like this:
1. Boy meets girl and begins dating/courtship.
3. Boy professes undying love and pressures girl to have sex.
4. Girl gives in to boy’s pressure and has sex with him.
5. Boy loses interest and dumps girl.
6. Girl is left to deal with her broken heart as well as any physical consequences.

There are a few variations to this story. For example, sometimes the girl realizes too late that she was not even the only girlfriend—she was just one of his many “conquests.” Sometimes the couple was together for months (or years) and she thought that they would get married. Regardless, the outcome is usually the same—a young woman with a broken heart.

I meet hundreds of students each year, and I’ve heard this story many times. Please don’t let this happen to you. If you are being pressured to have sex, the relationship is already dead. It is over. The only question is the price you will pay before you realize it is over. Take my word on this or you too will pay a high price.

See also:
For Women, Part 1: You Lose!
For Women, Part 2: Say “No” to Mr. Bolero

Above all else, guard your heart,
for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23

This is one of the many articles that you’ll find in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.