Category: For Women

Subway “Love at First Sight”


I’m not sure if any of you have seen this story, but it’s been all over the internet the past few days. It comes from New York City, USA.

Here’s how the story goes:

Patrick Moberg saw a lovely young woman while riding the subway. He was immediately attracted to her, and he knew he wanted to talk to her. Unfortunately, she exited the subway before he could get up the courage to approach her. He lost sight of her in the crowd of commuters.

He decided to enlist the help of his fellow New Yorkers to find her. He created a website, (http://nygirlofmydreams.com) complete with a hand-drawn illustration of himself and the mystery girl.

Against all odds, he found her. One of the young woman’s friends saw Patrick’s website and suspected that she knew who he was looking for. She sent a picture through her cell phone, and Patrick confirmed that she was indeed the one. The young woman turned out to be Camille Hayton, and intern from Australia. They eventually went on a date and hit it off.

Something tells me that wouldn’t work too well for me here in Manila. Imagine if drew a picture describing a beautiful, petite morena in a nurse’s uniform. I don’t think that would narrow it down very much (especially here in the “U-belt” area). If I see the girl of my dreams in the LRT, I better take my chances and seize the moment. I’d advise all my male readers to do the same.

Morning after Mourning

. . . Weeping may last through the night,
but joy comes with the morning.
-Psalm 30:5

It’s true that I’ve experienced breakups, being basted, dumped, and all those other unfortunate events that come with being single. I’ve also mentioned that heartbreaks hurt now, just like they did when I was much younger.

There is an advantage, however, to being older and wiser. No matter what happens, I know that the sadness will not last forever.

Those first few days can be rough—it’s kind of like “emotional jet lag.” It can be hard to think about anything but your own pain. Difficult as it is, this stage cannot be skipped—it has to be endured.

There comes a point, however, where it just doesn’t hurt as much. You start playing happy songs again on your ipod (instead of all of those depressing “how will I live without you” type tunes). The joy of living begins to return, as if a fog has lifted away from your soul. The healing has begun.

You may still miss the person who is gone from your life (even if you are the one who ended the relationship). The memories may still hurt, but they hurt less than before.

As long as you have committed to let go of the past, you will heal. It will take time. You may even be left with some emotional scars, but scars don’t hurt anymore. They are simply there to remind us of lessons learned.

No matter what is happening in your life, do not forget that joy comes in the morning.

An expanded version of this article is available in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.