As usual, students have contacted me this week with relationship questions. Two of them described very unhealthy relationships. I don’t mean the normal “love quarrels”—I mean seriously dysfunctional relationships (one of them described abuse).
My advice to both of these young women was pretty simple: break up with Mr. Loser, move on with your life, and find a decent guy.
“But I love him.”
Both of them gave me this response, as if I would say, “Oh, you love him. Well, never mind then—please proceed with your own destruction.”
Here’s what I hope all of you will understand: sometimes we reach a point where there are no easy, pain-free decisions. In these cases, we have to choose temporary pain (break-up) instead of long-term pain (staying in a bad relationship).
Sadly, I’ve seen many people stay in terrible relationships in order to avoid the temporary pain of a break-up.
Choose wisely! Remember: sometimes the right thing to do can also be the hardest thing to do.
In case you are wondering, this article applies to the guys, too.
