Category: For Women

The Two Types of Men (Part 2)

Part Two: Observations of a Protector

I greatly appreciate all your comments re: The Two Types of Men.

I’d like to ad a few more thoughts to this discussion.

It seems some of you are discouraged with the number of “predator” men out there.  I understand your frustration, and I’m glad you feel like you can talk openly about it here.  But I also want to gently remind you of a few important truths.

While protectors are rare, women who wait for protectors are also rare.  Sooner or later, every woman learns she can’t win with a predator.  The issue is the amount of time, energy, emotion, and intimacy she’ll waste before she comes to her senses.  A wise woman learns her lesson quickly, but many insist on learning the hard way.

It isn’t just the women who suffer when the predator “wins.”  The protector suffers as well.  He is not blessed when women invite jerks into their hearts (and beds).


Remember, it is your responsibility to choose wisely.  You can’t blame others if you settle for the wrong kind of man.

Choose wisely, my sisters!

The Two Types of Men

When it comes to relationships, I believe there are basically two types of men: protectors and predators.  I’ll describe each.

Protectors

As the name implies, a protector is interested in protecting the heart, purity, and reputation of any woman he is in a relationship with.  He wants to postpone sex until marriage, and his actions prove it.  A protector puts her needs before his own.  The woman in his life feels completely safe: she feels loved, honored and at peace with her own conscience.

Predators

A predator is not safe to be with.  He is primarily interested in his own wants, and women are simply a means to that end.  A predator can be charming, smooth, persuasive, and manipulative—after all, he must carefully disguise his true nature and intentions.  He seeks his own gratification, indifferent to the harm he causes.  Sooner or later, the woman in his life loses: she loses her innocence, self-respect, and maybe more.

Ladies, what kind of men are you choosing?

Men, what kind of man are you choosing to be?

See also: The Two Types of Men, Part 2