Category: For Men

For Men: God Has No Double Standard

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Men, I’m going to spend some time talking about sexual purity from a male perspective. Ladies, you are more than welcome to read and comment. Just keep in mind that I’m writing from a male perspective with men in mind.

According to the State of the Philippine Population Report(2002), there is a striking difference between men and women’s attitudes about premarital sex. It is considered more acceptable for a man to commit premarital sex than for a woman. Virginity is considered to ad value to a woman, but not to a man. This is the myth that I want to address: the double standard.  Some believe it is OK for a man to have multiple sexual partners, breaking hearts along the way.

Guys, lets get one thing straight—God does not have a double standard. His commands for sexuality are perfectly consistent for both men and women. He has a lot to say to us and it’s about time that we listened.

God tells us his plan for sex and male-female relationships all the way back in Genesis:

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. –Genesis 2:24

God created sex, and He’s not shy about telling us when and with whom it should be done. God gave us instructions about sex as soon as He created the first woman.

God told us the proper way to think about women and sexuality. He gave women to us to be loved, honored, protected, and cherished as life partners. Women were not created to be used for our own selfish sexual desires.

We are told that God’s plan for sex is one man and one woman in a lifetime covenant of marriage. The expression “one flesh” is a reference to sexual intimacy—a beautiful description of what happens when two people have sex.

Notice that the Scripture says a man will be “united to his wife.” Men, we are to unite with our wives and only then become sexually intimate. There is no mention of becoming “one flesh,” with girlfriends, live-ins, flings, one night stands, prostitutes or other men.

If you are having premarital sex, you are violating God’s commandments. Your buddies may approve, but God doesn’t. Society and culture may accept it, but God doesn’t. You are abusing two of the greatest gifts God ever gave to you: women and sexuality.

Let’s follow God’s plan and treat women the way God intended.

This is one of the many articles that you’ll find in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.

ASK KUYA KEVIN: Same Sex Relationships

Someone asked:
“kuya kevin, what is your opinion about same sex relationships????”

I have had several students ask me this. There are two basic things you need to understand about homosexuality.

FIRST–THE BIBLE SAYS IT IS SINFUL. Everything the Bible says about homosexual behavior is negative. This is true in both Old and New Testaments.

Let me give you a few passages of Scripture (I will quote mostly from the Contemporary English Version unless otherwise noted).

OLD TESTAMENT:

Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve.

All the way back in Genesis we see God’s plan for sexuality: For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24 NIV)
God’s plan for sexuality is One Man, One Woman in a lifetime committment (marriage). God’s plan has not changed.

God destroyed the city of Sodom due to homosexual rapists (Genesis 19:1-29). From then until now, “sodomy” is associated with homosexual sex practices.

In the Old Testament law, God also says: Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable. (Leviticus 18:22)

NEW TESTAMENT

The New Testament also forbids homosexual behavior.

God let them follow their own evil desires. Women no longer wanted to have sex in a natural way, and they did things with each other that were not natural. Men behaved in the same way. They stopped wanting to have sex with women and had strong desires for sex with other men. They did shameful things with each other, and what has happened to them is punishment for their foolish deeds. (Romans 1:26-27).

SECOND-GOD CAN CHANGE ANYONE, INCLUDING A HOMOSEXUAL.

I want us to look at a passage of Scripture from 1st Corinthians (New Testament):

Don’t you know that evil people won’t have a share in the blessings of God’s kingdom? Don’t fool yourselves! No one who is immoral or worships idols or is unfaithful in marriage or is a pervert or behaves like a homosexual will share in God’s kingdom. Neither will any thief or greedy person or drunkard or anyone who curses and cheats others. Some of you used to be like that. But now the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and the power of God’s Spirit have washed you and made you holy and acceptable to God. (1st Corinthians 6:9-11).

Now, let’s pay special attention to verse 11:
Some of you used to be like that. But now the name of our Lord Jesus Christ and the power of God’s Spirit have washed you and made you holy and acceptable to God. In other words, some of the church members used to be part of the homosexual lifestyle. What happened? God changed them!

The Bible says: Anyone who belongs to Christ is a new person. The past is forgotten, and everything is new (2nd Corinthians 5:17).

If you are struggling with this issue there are two things you need to do:

First, you need to have a genuine, life-changing experience with Jesus Christ. This is the only way that we can have a changed life. Please contact me if you do not know how to go about doing this.

Second, you need people who will support your new lifestyle. It is very common for people to be tempted even after they have committed to a new life in Christ. You need to get away from people and situations that will pull you back into those old habits. You need people that can help you grow spiritually. If you do not know how to go about this then contact me. I will help you or find someone who can.