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Pornography and Imprinting

I usually mention this warning from Jesus when discussing the dangers of pornography:

“You have heard the commandment that says, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
-Matthew 5:27-28

One thing is clear from this passage: God is not silent or neutral when it comes to pornography. Today’s easy accessibility of explicit images and videos hasn’t changed His mind one bit.

I wrote about the dangers of porn in my first book (Just One Click Away, page 28). But I’ve since learned about another ironic consequence of porn addiction: the inability to have sex with a “real” woman.

The problem is related to a psychological phenomenon known as imprinting. We can look to the animal kingdom for a simplified demonstration. Hatching ducks, for example, will usually follow the first moving object they see. This is God’s design to ensure they always stay close to their mother. But they could just as easily imprint on any moving object they are exposed to during the first crucial hours of their lives—a human or even an inanimate object (like a remote-controlled car).

We humans are certainly more complex than ducklings, but the same general principle applies. Men in particular are hardwired to be visually attracted to women—this is part of God’s design. But our Creator never intended for us to experience sexual excitement from a computer screen. Porn can create unnatural neural pathways in one’s brain—the mind can get “rewired” in such a way as to prefer (or require) artificial stimuli for arousal.*

I’m not just talking about theory here. Countless marriages have been harmed by pornography addiction. In extreme cases the husband may prefer his addiction to making love to his wife—this really does happen.

My point is simple: Jesus knew what he what he was talking about when he warned us about sinning with our eyes and hearts. There’s no such thing as a harmless sin—especially where sexual purity is concerned.

Notes:

*One group decided to create a website called This is Your Brain on Porn after noticing many porn addicts struggled with erectile dysfunction. I obviously don’t agree with the authors’ apparent worldview (evolution, etc.). Having said that, I find it remarkable that a completely “secular” group of psychologists have taken note of the harm done by pornography addiction.

Sifted: Pursuing Growth through Trials, Challenges, and Disappointments (Book Review)

I first became familiar with Wayne Cordeiro through reading Leading on Empty: Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion.  This book really encouraged me through a time of feeling burned out.

I didn’t hesitate to buy his new book: Sifted: Pursuing Growth through Trials, Challenges, and Disappointments (this book was co-authored by Francis Chan and Larry Osborne).

The idea of this book is based on Luke 22:31-32:

“Simon, Simon, behold, Satan demanded to have you, that he might sift you like wheat, but I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.”

God allows His followers to experience “sifting”–seasons of testing, difficulty, discomfort, and disappointment.  This is no mistake, the author argues: it is God’s way of developing us into the kinds of leaders He wants us to be.  But the process is only effective if we respond to it correctly.

This book was encouraging, challenging, and deeply rooted in the truths of Scripture.  I really appreciate the way the authors addressed the issues that discourage pastors, and that’s the group I’d recommend it for.

Pastor, read this book if you are going through a difficult season in your ministry (most of us do at some point).  You’ll learn to see your trials from a more eternal perspective.