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Kuya Kevin’s Blog 2.0

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Kuya Kevins’ blog is finally making the switch from blogger to a self-hosted WordPress blog. I’ve had my fitness blog is on Hostgator for several months and I’ve been very happy with this arrangement.

I’ve really enjoyed using blogger all these years, but there are a few reasons I’m making this switch:

*I’ve had a much easier time copying/pasting from Microsoft Word in to the WordPress.  It can be done in blogger, but I usually have formatting issues that take time to manually correct.

*I really enjoy the widgets/plugins that are available with WordPress.  Example: the follow me widget here in the upper-right hand corner was very easy to add/install.  Same goes for these nifty share buttons over and above this post.

*Changing/customizing the themes is much easier in WordPress.   Using custom themes in blogger was always hit-or-miss and involved doing some html coding.

Those are just a few factors that come to mind.

I’ve decided to use KevinSanders.org as the new domain.  I bought it a few years ago and I think now is a good time to make use of it.

Fortunately I still own KuyaKevin.com and I can point it to this new blog/domain (just as I pointed it to the blogspot page before).  I’ll be importing all the content from the old blog into this new one soon.

Praying for the One

Someone asked question to me through my Facebook page a few days ago:

“Is it OK to ask God to give me a specific person as my future spouse?”

This isn’t the first time I’ve been asked this question, though people phrase it in different ways. Students have asked me, for example, if it is OK to pray about someone you admire.

Let me start my response this way: I definitely encourage singles to pray about relationship decisions. God is eager to guide us and give us wisdom about every choice we make—especially something as significant as who we will spend the rest of our lives with.

But you need to keep a few things in mind while you are praying. Let me first address the men, then the women:

For the Men:

A young man asked if he could pray and ask God for a specific girl during the Q/A portion of one of my seminars.

“You need to find out if she likes you first,” I replied, “otherwise, you may be wasting your prayers.”

I like the way Proverbs 27:5 puts it: “An open rebuke is better than hidden love!”

In other words, prayer is not intended to be a substitute for old-fashioned pursuit and courtship. If you like her, tell her and pursue her. One way or another, the answer is going to come from her, not directly from God. If she’s not interested then it’s time to move on.

For the Ladies:

I never encourage women to make the first move as far as initiating courtship or expressing romantic interest. With that in mind, here’s my main piece of advice: don’t assume a guy is interested in you unless he has made it 100% clear.

I’ve noticed a tendency among less mature Christian women: “praying for someone” can turn into a complete fantasy world. She’s planning the wedding and praying about what to name their first baby while the “potential husband” hasn’t even asked her out for coffee. Part of “guarding your heart” (Proverbs 4:23) means not allowing your fantasies to consume your thoughts.

A Few Final Thoughts (for Guys and Girls):

*Remember that “NO” is an answer, even if it isn’t the one we want to hear.

*Don’t expect God to supernaturally coerce someone into loving you. It doesn’t work that way.

*I really wish I didn’t have to say this, but I do: don’t tell someone you barely know that God told you to marry him/her. Your unsuspecting future spouse may not have gotten the divine memo.

*Last but not least, remember that God is not going to choose your spouse for you (see God’s Will and “The One.”). He will help you choose wisely, but don’t expect Him to choose for you.