The Valentine’s Day Massacre

I want to tell you a story that is thousands of years old, yet still happens today. It is more common than any fairy tale, yet you will not see it in many pocketbooks (romance novels). This story is both ancient and modern—it varies only slightly from the beginning of time until now.

The story goes something like this:
1. Boy meets girl and begins dating/courtship.
3. Boy professes undying love and pressures girl to have sex.
4. Girl gives in to boy’s pressure and has sex with him.
5. Boy loses interest and dumps girl.
6. Girl is left to deal with her broken heart as well as any physical consequences.

There are a few variations to this story. For example, sometimes the girl realizes too late that she was not even the only girlfriend—she was just one of his many “conquests.” Sometimes the couple was together for months (or years) and she thought that they would get married. Regardless, the outcome is usually the same—a young woman with a broken heart.

I meet hundreds of students each year, and I’ve heard this story many times. Please don’t let this happen to you. If you are being pressured to have sex, the relationship is already dead. It is over. The only question is the price you will pay before you realize it is over. Take my word on this or you too will pay a high price.

See also:
For Women, Part 1: You Lose!
For Women, Part 2: Say “No” to Mr. Bolero

Above all else, guard your heart,
for it is the wellspring of life.
Proverbs 4:23

This is one of the many articles that you’ll find in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.