I want to talk about a very common misconception about love and sex. Many people believe that it is OK to have sex as long as you are in love. This is 100% false.
This belief is false for two very important reasons. First, feeling like you are “in love” is not a guarantee that your relationship will last. Most of you probably have ex girlfriends or ex boyfriends. This means you were absolutely convinced that you were in love with this person. Where is he/she now? I cannot count the number of times I have heard someone tell me that they had sex because they thought they had found an everlasting love. Some had been in the relationship for years. Some were even engaged. These people were disappointed and heartbroken once the relationship ended. They lost both their purity and the relationship.
Secondly, being “in love” does not protect us from the consequences of premarital sex. You still suffer the consequences even if you are in love. The spiritual consequences (feeling far away from God), emotional consequences (guilt, broken heart, tendency to repeat the mistake), and physical consequences (disease, unwanted pregnancy) happen when we disobey God’s protective commandments.
I have encouraged all of you to think about your future spouse. Imagine saying the following things to someone you want to marry:
“You will not be my first on our wedding night—you will be lover number (2, 3, 6, etc). I’ve already given myself to others, but each time I was in love.”
“I have an STD, but I was in love when I contracted it.”
God wants us to experience sex within the protection of a lifetime commitment. Follow His commandments and you will have no regrets. Follow your own heart’s desires and you are headed for trouble.
The human heart is the most deceitful of all things,
and desperately wicked.
Who really knows how bad it is?
This is one of the many articles that you’ll find in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.
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