Pastor Kevin Sanders

"He must increase, but I must decrease." -John 3:30

For Men: God Has No Double Standard


Men, I’m going to spend some time talking about sexual purity from a male perspective. Ladies, you are more than welcome to read and comment. Just keep in mind that I’m writing from a male perspective with men in mind.

According to the State of the Philippine Population Report(2002), there is a striking difference between men and women’s attitudes about premarital sex. It is considered more acceptable for a man to commit premarital sex than for a woman. Virginity is considered to ad value to a woman, but not to a man. This is the myth that I want to address: the double standard.  Some believe it is OK for a man to have multiple sexual partners, breaking hearts along the way.

Guys, lets get one thing straight—God does not have a double standard. His commands for sexuality are perfectly consistent for both men and women. He has a lot to say to us and it’s about time that we listened.

God tells us his plan for sex and male-female relationships all the way back in Genesis:

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. Genesis 2:24

God created sex, and He’s not shy about telling us when and with whom it should be done. God gave us instructions about sex as soon as He created the first woman.

God told us the proper way to think about women and sexuality. He gave women to us to be loved, honored, protected, and cherished as life partners. Women were not created to be used for our own selfish sexual desires.

We are told that God’s plan for sex is one man and one woman in a lifetime covenant of marriage. The expression “one flesh” is a reference to sexual intimacy—a beautiful description of what happens when two people have sex.

Notice that the Scripture says a man will be “united to his wife. Men, we are to unite with our wives and only then become sexually intimate. There is no mention of becoming “one flesh,” with girlfriends, live-ins, flings, one night stands, prostitutes or other men.

If you are having premarital sex, you are violating God’s commandments. Your buddies may approve, but God doesn’t. Society and culture may accept it, but God doesn’t. You are abusing two of the greatest gifts God ever gave to you: women and sexuality.

Let’s follow God’s plan and treat women the way God intended.

This is one of the many articles that you’ll find in my book: Basta Lovelife: Making Wise Relationship Decisions.

1 Comment

  1. Spikaprocopia

    10/28/2006 at 11:22 am

    Nice topic Kuya, Ill be waiting for part 2 🙂

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